tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post5078895530548693419..comments2024-03-14T02:52:30.104-07:00Comments on The Simply Luxurious Life®: The Most Important Ingredient for a Healthy RomanceThe Simply Luxurious Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06288681334499771945noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-25499361637836137572012-10-01T23:15:32.626-07:002012-10-01T23:15:32.626-07:00This is fantastic and right on point. My parents a...This is fantastic and right on point. My parents always raised me to be happy and dependent on myself, so I was always so confused when most of my friends sought out happiness by involving themselves in bad relationships. It was not great for their self-esteem or their wellbeing. Great topic you picked this week!Chantellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12869409832530479206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-64332331328949867652012-10-01T21:12:54.133-07:002012-10-01T21:12:54.133-07:00Stephanie,
I love your willingness to be so forth...Stephanie,<br /><br />I love your willingness to be so forthright. Please know, I think you misunderstood the intention of this particular post. <br />Based on my experience and speaking with those in respectful, loving and committed relationships, the best thing you can bring to creating a fulfilling relationship is someone who is secure in who they are, what they want and need and the realization that the person they are entering into a relationship is not responsible to make them happy, but to heighten what they already know and enjoy.<br />Conversely, people who get involved in relationships who are malleable and unclear of what they have to offer life in general bring with them a weight that burdens the potential of the relationship blossoming into what they may have desired. <br />So regardless of whether someone wants a relationship, family, kids or a contented life being single, true fulfillment is the first step to any of these end results working out successfully.The Simply Luxurious Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06288681334499771945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-55714395517833173242012-10-01T20:32:21.508-07:002012-10-01T20:32:21.508-07:00P.S. Regarding the idea of feeling "complete&...P.S. Regarding the idea of feeling "complete". I think completeness comes moreso from a sense that you have whatever it is that you desire in life, I don't think it's specific to being in a couple. If one of your big wishes/wants was to get married and have a family, then that WOULD probably add to a feeling of completeness in your life. If it's not, then okay. Maybe it's something else. If you had a great romantic partner, but weren't getting anywhere in terms of the career you wanted and that was a big wish, would you feel complete? <br /><br />I think completness is just too individualized to generalize. For myself personally, I want to get married, and I want to raise a family. If I never got those things, I would not feel as though my life had been complete. It would feel unfinished. I certainly don't think that way or fear about it, but just as an example.<br /><br />I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to complete your life with a goal or a wish, whatever it may be. I realize life throws us twist and turns, but everyone has desires for their own life. Just my thoughts.Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-33296718955316347912012-10-01T20:27:32.780-07:002012-10-01T20:27:32.780-07:00I agree with alot of what was said here, but I'...I agree with alot of what was said here, but I'm always just a little bit cautious with such topics that are all about the idea that you're not supposed to look to your partner for happiness, you must find it within yourself, etc. Personally, I find that a smidge mis-leading. I believe that being in a strong, committed relationship is one of the greatest joys out there and when you're in one, you WANT to make the other person happy and feel it reciprocated. Humans are also born to want to connect, so I think that the desire to share your life with a partner, a best friend, and to know you will gain happiness from it is an important feeling that should not be dismissed. This is not to be confused with relying on someone to fix your issues or life problems. <br /><br />I also think that there is a time and a place for different forms of happiness and they are just that, different. Being happy as a single is a different type of happiness than being happy in a couple. One is not better than the other. Sometimes I feel as though articles of this nature try to make us feel as though happiness, developed through ourselves alone, should be the ultimate goal and to want anything different (ie. sharing) could translate to being "dependent". I know many people who led happy, indepedent lives when they were single and are now happily coupled. But if their spouse has to be away from them for awhile or something happens, they are sad, they miss them, they'd prefer them to be around. To me, this is normal and natural. <br /><br />I do think you have to develop a sense of comfortableness and independence with your life as a single. But there is nothing wrong with desiring, and having as a goal which will contribute to your overall happiness, to share your life with someone.<br /><br />I am single, comfortable, independent and relatively happy. I have all that I could want as a single. I desire a relationship and I know it will be a big source of happiness to me. I am not afraid to admit that I want it, want it big (I think sometimes people, women especially, try to pretend that they don't really want it when they actually do). But I can still make plans and live a happy life until it comes along. However, I can't wait for the increased joy and happiness that will come from sharing my life with someone, and I know my life will be even better, happier, because of it.<br /><br />Sorry for the long-winded comment!Stephanienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-43306533417225099122012-10-01T20:12:32.144-07:002012-10-01T20:12:32.144-07:00Ashley, Thank you so much! xoxoAshley, Thank you so much! xoxoThe Simply Luxurious Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06288681334499771945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-79450973544391174052012-10-01T20:12:06.521-07:002012-10-01T20:12:06.521-07:00Thank you for your kind words. :) Regarding the As...Thank you for your kind words. :) Regarding the Ask Shannon feature, simply email me at askshannon@thesimplyluxuriouslife.com and I will respond as quickly as possible to your question. The Simply Luxurious Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06288681334499771945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-18425253474786348092012-10-01T14:39:41.442-07:002012-10-01T14:39:41.442-07:00Ever since I found your blog Shannon, I have come ...Ever since I found your blog Shannon, I have come back almost on a daily basis. I think your authentic voice speaks to many, many womens' authentic selves. Thank you for sharing who you are with your readers. Is your Ask Shannon email de-activated? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-19203253232322445832012-10-01T11:23:01.039-07:002012-10-01T11:23:01.039-07:00Someone just asked me for a list of my three favor...Someone just asked me for a list of my three favorite blogs. I can happily say that yours made my list because of posts like these.Ashley Laurelhttp://pretty-innovative.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-69931700912843972532012-10-01T01:14:26.369-07:002012-10-01T01:14:26.369-07:00This is such a meaningful and lovely post, Shannon...This is such a meaningful and lovely post, Shannon. And it really exemplifies why I love your blog so much! Keep up the great work :)Mirantihttp://penandpeplum.comnoreply@blogger.com