tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post2044559594445794458..comments2024-03-14T02:52:30.104-07:00Comments on The Simply Luxurious Life®: An Article to Read: No. 2The Simply Luxurious Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06288681334499771945noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-64493019613589859472013-07-08T10:13:04.082-07:002013-07-08T10:13:04.082-07:00I agree with all above commenters. I also do not w...I agree with all above commenters. I also do not want children and just turned 31. I am not married yet (but have found the one I want to grow old with) and I am not looking forward to the "when are you having children" questions that will immediately start when I do get married.<br /><br />I especially agree with Sarah who states that I think the people who are most adament about the idea that you "must" have kids fall into the "misery loves company" camp. So many people have kids, and realize years in that it is not the fantasy world it is made out to be. The thing is, you can't give them back. They did it bc it is what everyone else does, and now they realize that its really not all that great. <br /><br />I also have spoken with way too many men who regret getting married and having kids (and they love their kids) but their wives are a shadow of the person they married, and their lives are just one big monotonous routine that they despise. I can't think of anything worse!<br /><br />Of course it is not everyone, but recent research has indicated that people without children are happier, and I think to that when people look at me like I am crazy for not wanting any. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09868195252629769444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-7750604929187098222013-07-04T17:50:15.536-07:002013-07-04T17:50:15.536-07:00Anonymous - Thank you for sharing your experience ...Anonymous - Thank you for sharing your experience and decision. I think there are many more women who feel the same way, but it is the uncertainty of how people will respond. The more people hear it and see women leading full and productive lives, the more at ease people will become as they realize that choosing to have children is not a decision that is to be taken lightly, is not what every woman must do to be viewed as a "good" woman and that whether one chooses to or chooses not to is solely their decision, not society's or their family's and we should support all women regardless.Shannon Ableshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09233624086653095662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-3746413979968910432013-07-04T04:01:21.658-07:002013-07-04T04:01:21.658-07:00Its such a difficult subject to discuss because pe...Its such a difficult subject to discuss because people are SO opinionated on the matter and no doubt someone will always get upset by comments.<br />I am 33, 34 this year. I do not want children and have known this my whole life. My family know this (my Mother is more than happy with her Grandpuppy) and friends all know this.<br />Yet for some reason being a woman in her 30s who openly does not want children is just plain unbelievable to some people. I way as well be racist or homophobic (im not either) for some of the looks I get when I tell people.<br />I am not a child hater, I have 3 god children and 2 nephews, plus 90% of my friends have children that I love. But I don't want my own, to keep, every day for ever. Yet I cant tell you how rude some people can be. 'Oh you just don't know yet love' 'you just have not found the right person' 'you clock will kick in' 'you will want them one day' Urmmm are you basically calling me a liar? Of course I have a clock, and of course its ticking, but not for babys. Im not trying to fool anyone cause I cant have them (I am currently donating my eggs to a couple that really want children but cant have them) Its like You are a woman. you MUST have children, come on people its 2013.<br />Anyway, my rambling point is.. I receive a huge amount of pressure even though I don't want kids. I cant imagine being on the opposite end of wanting a child but just not right now, yet all the pressure from TV, papers & society, everywhere you turn. I honestly feel for the weight on peoples shoulders sometimes. Its a good post and im glad people are not afraid to tell the truth about matters despite what seems like the world against them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-18411485005210367462013-07-03T11:14:10.526-07:002013-07-03T11:14:10.526-07:00I feel like there is an internet conspiracy going ...I feel like there is an internet conspiracy going on! ;)I can't even tell you how often this has popped up lately. This has been a constant debate for my husband and I for the past few years. Today I begin my 30th year...and everyone is happy to remind me that time is "running out"....and for someone who is still undecided, it can't help but instill fear no matter how you look at it. I do however, think it is very important for people to be educated on their choice to wait. Many friends have pursued careers and relied on IVF as a "backup plan" only to realize that IVF success rates stand at 25%. Had they had known, they all say they would have started sooner. Thanks for posting such well-rounded posts!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10192134574908303927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-13929247006687722862013-07-03T11:09:21.164-07:002013-07-03T11:09:21.164-07:00So true!! I almost feel like they are trapped in t...So true!! I almost feel like they are trapped in the baby club, so they figure they should rope as many others in as possible! lol. I few times I have gotten "Well, you wouldn't know, because you aren't a mom." and this was in response to an un-kid related subject!I DO still experience life and I DO still know things about the world, despite the fact I don't have kids ; )Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10192134574908303927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6310399481533841878.post-23465697192609970612013-07-02T12:59:59.665-07:002013-07-02T12:59:59.665-07:00Great article! Thank you! I read something similar...Great article! Thank you! I read something similar at the doc's office a while back and it made me feel much better as I am not in a hurry to have a baby (if I decide to have one at all, I am still on and off). I wish more people knew this info and stopped bothering me with their well-meant comments about waiting too long. Also did you notice how parents see every non-parent as a lesser citizen?Evelynnoreply@blogger.com